There are people in our lives who contribute so much to daily life that they may be considered “influential.”

They create an energy that has an impact on everything we say and everything we do…We see and hear of folks who often thank their Mom’s whenever they have an achievement that seems out of the ordinary. For most of us, the relationship with our Mom is indeed powerful.

I was raised with a “you can do anything” attitude.

My Mom was forever encouraging me to not only to think outside the box but be creative, take a risk and make a difference in the world. Like most women of a certain age she was raised at a time when things were very different and yet they had a perseverance and resilience that was often passed along to their daughters and sons. They were determined to see both social and political change for the future.

My Mom was born before her time; she was open minded, courageous and liberal…I was raised by a woman who possesses an energy that is both soft yet purposeful. She is a no nonsense kind of gal…

She is indeed influential not only in my life but for my brother. What we learn in our homes is  impactful when we go out into the world and begin to make our own contributions to society.

They introduce us to the concept of mentorship and share with us not only their experience but ideas and notions for the future. Our Dad’s are not far behind and or some may be a force that is equal to or more powerful than Mom.

At some point in time, they pass the baton to us who then become mentors to the next generation of “people” who shape and form our culture in both the present and future.

I do believe the most impactful relationships start with our families who create a platform for sharing ideas and experiences for the future.

At one time or another, we will all experience the role of both Mentor and Mentee and we are all influenced by that first and most important role model of “Mother.”

On this International Women’s day may you celebrate the many women who have had an impact in your life and may you  become someone of influence on other in your own network.

Celebrate….someday we too will pass the torch!

#IWD2019

“May your legacy create a footprint of success
for the next person who steps into your shoes”

Trish Tonaj is an author, coach and speaker, sharing stories to inspire great ideas 
while creating a culture of wealth and wellbeing. She is Managing Partner in The Mechanics of FLOW2, online resources for You and Your Growing Business and host of the Share Your Story blog series. She is the author of two books and a complimentary e-magazine, W2.
Visit Trish @ www.phaze2wellness.com

 

Have your ever had a “really” good idea?

Every international company starts out as an incubator business.  Every successful entrepreneur has had a mentor with a support network that inspires them to be the best they can be and every business mogul started in the trenches with a great idea!

“Share Your Story” is part of my passion project, to assist entrepreneurs and enterprise leaders with Breaking Barriers to success under the umbrella of mentorship.

We share stories of ordinary people, doing “extra” ordinary things as they connect with their communities and pursue their own brand of success.

Each person who shares their story has been on a journey – a great idea, lightbulb moment and 3 words of advice! Every feature supports an “If I can do it; You can do it” attitude.

As an entrepreneurial coach, I find the stories inspirational, especially as we read why they started their business and when they experienced their lightbulb moments.  Three words of advice start a new conversation and create an opportunity for us to think about “what’s next” in our own story.

I am truly amazed by the number of brave and talented people doing fantastic things in business today and everyone we feature is passionate about what they do…they create a connection with their community. 

When I was doing research for the book Breaking Barries, I found there is information to support, that when we read or hear someone else’s story it connects us to our dreams and encourages us to move outside our own comfort zone.  We all know, the magic happens when we are experiencing a sense of flow and living in the zone.

Who knew?…

I am now being asked: 

Why are you sharing stories?
What is your motivation? and
Why is it complimentary to participate? 

My answer is really very simple:

I’d like to share as many stories as possible, creating a platform that will showcase ordinary people who are doing “extra” ordinary things. Mentorship is all about sharing stories to inspire great ideas.

It is truly a feel good experience!

Who knows, maybe someday we will be able to say “we knew you when”…. or perhaps by sharing your brand of magic you will inspire someone else on their journey!

I never thought I’d become a Blog Host, I guess you could say, I’ve had my own lightbulb moment.
My intuition tells me, this new venture is going to be an amazing experience as we share “good news stories.”

Interested in participating? Send me a DM or complete the Contact Us page on our website. We will forward the template to start the conversation.

In the meantime, please enjoy the features  https://bit.ly/2BBzoOB and create a new dialogue using your own 3 words of advice.

“May your legacy create a footprint of success for the next person who steps into your shoes.”  TT

Put yourself out there and Share Your Story!

 

Trish Tonaj is an author, coach and speaker, sharing stories to inspire great ideas 
while creating a culture of wealth and wellbeing. She is Managing Partner in The Mechanics of FLOW2, online resources for You and Your Growing Business and host of the Share Your Story blog series. She is the author of two books and a complimentary e-magazine, W2.
Visit Trish @ www.phaze2wellness.com

 

A personal note….

As we begin another year of lightbulb moments; I wanted to express my gratitude to those who have taken the leap of faith to share their stories with me so that we may inspire each other with great ideas.

When I first began my entrepreneurial journey over 25 years ago, there were very few role models for women in business. Inspiration was gained through a willingness to learn, fuelled by a passion to succeed while making a positive contribution to our communities.

Since the publication of the first edition of Breaking Barriers in 2016, I have come to realize that sharing our stories is a powerful form of mentorship.

Empowering individuals to pursue their dreams builds a solid platform to create our own formula for success while contributing to our communities.

Breaking Barriers has become my passion project, and this year I embark on writing an international edition. We will share stories from 10 different countries to inspire, motivate, and empower women in business on a global platform.

In order to fuel our passion, we will begin to share lightbulb moments in the coming year with our weekly guest blog series under the umbrella of:

Mentorship… share your brand of magic to inspire great ideas.

https://bit.ly/2BBzoOB

I’d like to thank everyone who participates in the project, without you, it would be impossible to continue the journey.

In the spirit of gratitude, I have one wish for the coming year… that we will be able to continue to support one another in our personal quest for peace, prosperity and well-being. 

I look forward to the opportunity to meet with you and your network as we continue to share stories.

Happy New Year!

Trish Tonaj

Trish Tonaj is an author, coach and speaker sharing stories on mentorship
while creating a culture of wealth and wellbeing. She is the author of Breaking Barriers 10 Entrepreneurial Women Share Their Stories and A Diary of Change 12 Personal Tools and W2, Wealth and Wellbeing.

Visit Trish @ www.phaze2wellness.com

Have you seen the list of new movies coming out this season?

There are a number that focus on a feel good experience that will have us leaving the theatre with a smile. Mary Poppins comes to mind and I remember it was my first movie. I was about 5 years old, going to the theatre with my best friend, chaperoned by my Mom.

Popcorn, chocolate and magic!

The story of a Nanny and her “supercalifragilisticexpialidocious” approach to life. What I especially remember about the story was her ability to make the Banks children not only smile but laugh. She increased their happiness factor. Just like that! (finger snap)

What a great time of year to reintroduce the story…

It is the season of magic!

This year, I have been sharing stories to inspire great ideas. Meeting with people who have introduced me to their own brand of magic by sharing their experiences with happiness.

I am always interested in hearing the story behind the story and how each unique experience contributes to our own definition.
As we build our unique brand of magic; here are a few traits found in a resource we offer – your personalized EQ report that I feel helps to define happiness and create smiles:

1) Optimism 


An indicator of one’s positive attitude and outlook on life. It involves remaining hopeful and resilient, despite occasional setbacks.

2) Self-Regard

Respecting oneself while understanding and accepting one’s strengths 
 and weaknesses. Self-Regard is often associated with feelings of inner 
 strength and self-confidence.

3) Social Responsibility

Willingly contributing to society, to one’s social groups, and generally to the welfare of others. Social Responsibility involves acting responsibly, 
 having social consciousness, and showing concern for the greater 
 community.

I’m sure you’ll agree, these qualities provide a foundation for inspiring great ideas.

I’d like to take this opportunity to wish you and your family all the best for the holiday season.

Celebrate your own brand of magic and…
I hope you have many occasions to share smiles!

 

Trish Tonaj is an author, coach and speaker sharing stories on mentorship
while creating a culture of wealth and wellbeing. She is the author of Breaking Barriers 10 Entrepreneurial Women Share Their Stories and A Diary of Change 12 Personal Tools and W2, Wealth and Wellbeing.

Visit Trish @ www.phaze2wellness.com

It is inspiring to note, there is a movement that has occurred in recent years that supports mentorship between accomplished businessmen and new/emerging female leaders.

When I first began my entrepreneurial journey over 25 years ago, there were very few role models from women for women in business. Inspiration was gained through a willingness to learn, fuelled by a passion to succeed while making a positive contribution to our communities.

In the upper echelons of companies, executives were all blue suits and red ties, usually with the first signs of women in business in third tier positions, and most often by seasoned individuals with well over 20 years of experience within the organization. It was a frustrating time for anyone starting their career with a long term vision to contribute and aspire to a leadership role within in an organization. The women’s movement started in the 60’s with many females in business paving the way for the next generation of business leaders.

Thankfully, times are changing!

Throughout the last 25 years, as an entrepreneur, I have worked with many individuals who have climbed the corporate ladder in organizations with a mentor wearing the blue suit to assist with opening doors.

The HeForShe movement has created an opportunity that I’d like to consider is “people supporting people” rather than a focus on gender roles.

Have we not been able to change the references within the hallowed halls of business to ensure that the best leaders are mentored based on skill and expertise rather than a focus on gender?
Since the publication of the first edition of Breaking Barriers, I have come to realize that sharing our stories from 10 Entrepreneurial Women is a powerful form of mentorship that supports one-to-one connections. Empowering individuals to pursue their dreams creates an opportunity to build a solid platform and develop our own formula for success.
Breaking Barriers has become my passion project, as I embark on an international edition, we will continue to share stories from business leaders in 10 different countries to inspire, motivate, and empower “people” in business on a global platform.

The stories will continue to feature women in business, as I believe we need to continue to lead by example and sharing stories is a great way to continue the trend to inspire others to fulfill their dreams.

Mentorship, is a powerful tool for success, at times providing a roadmap for others to embark on a journey that contributes to our communities through positive change. Regardless of gender, I’d like to encourage you to make a connection through mentorship that leads to personal and professional success.

I’d like to thank everyone who shares this vision; without you, it would be impossible to continue the journey.

I send my heartfelt thanks to everyone who joins us in this new project…

I look forward to sharing your story!

Trish Tonaj is an author, coach and speaker sharing stories on mentorship
while creating a culture of wealth and wellbeing. She is the author of Breaking Barriers 10 Entrepreneurial Women Share Their Stories and A Diary of Change 12 Personal Tools and W2, Wealth and Wellbeing.

Visit Trish @ www.phaze2wellness.com

 

 

In recent months, I have found myself in conversations with business leaders about getting to “Yes.” There seems to be an increased number

of people regardless of industry that are in discussions that include

“no, no thank you,” “not right now,” or “maybe in a few weeks/months.”

Often, it is not related to a sale but rather collaborating on an idea or initiative that will be win-win for both parties. Based on the number of “no’s” we hear in a day week or month, we begin to forget a fundamental concept…we forget to ask!

Sometimes when we ask for help or share an idea we will most often hear “YES.” It is a great connector!

Hearing yes, fuels our creativity and provides the encouragement to think outside the box. I believe, when we hear yes it actually engages the happiness hormones that creates positive energy and just plain makes us feel good.

There are four hormones that contribute to happiness or fulfillment and they are: dopamin, oxytocin, serotonin and endorphins. All of these are naturally created in the body and are engaged when we feel happy, satisfied, and appreciated. They work in tandem with one another and are obviously created when we exercise, eat healthy and I believe hear “yes.”

As a graduate from Harvard Law School Negotiation Institute, I remember a similar conversation with colleagues and reading an article on the power of getting to yes, especially when negotiating.

After all, isn’t almost every conversation we have part of that process?

Here are a few suggestions found in a recent article in the Harvard Business Review when looking for yes:

  1. Separate the people from the problem
  2. Focus on interests, not positions
  3. Learn to manage emotions
  4. Express appreciation
  5. Put a positive spin on your message
  6. Escape the cycle of action and reaction

I will take this advice one step further and suggest that we end a conversation that will ultimately include yes so that we leave a connection on a positive note that will leave the door open for the future.

After all, isn’t that why we connected with someone in the first place?

We are all interested in collaborating and getting to “yes.”

Trish Tonaj is an author, coach and speaker sharing stories on mentorship
while creating a culture of wealth and wellbeing. She is the author of Breaking Barriers 10 Entrepreneurial Women Share Their Stories and A Diary of Change 12 Personal Tools and W2, Wealth and Wellbeing.

Visit Trish @ www.phaze2wellness.com

 

Reference Article:
Six Guidelines for “Getting to Yes”
by Katie Shonk – HBR July 17, 2018

Today is my birthday…combine that with the end of summer, back to school and you have what I call my “personal new year.”

I’ve just finished a 21 day challenge to recalibrate my personal and professional goals with all of the changes required for the next quarter.

I think I’m ready for a great fall season!

I often hear people say, Trish, you “walk the walk and talk the talk” and I’ve never really thought about it before…but if what they say is true, I’ve come to realize that I’m fuelling my passion project as an author, coach and speaker.

I have a commitment to life-long learning and I’m always looking for new and innovative ways to add value in support of my individual market niche…supporting mentorship!

Attending conferences, workshops and seminars is a great way to share knowledge, with that in mind, I will participate in 3 events this fall.

On an education front…I will start the Master Coaching Certification Program through the Certified Coaches Federation this month where I will be able to add a few new things to my toolbox of resources to better support my clients.

I’ve also hired a speaking coach, so that I may take this segment of my business to a whole new level. I will continue to use an ongoing platform of mentorship, business innovation and philanthropy. We have some very lofty goals that will take storytelling to a whole new audience. The objective: share stories that inspire, empower and motivate others to pursue their dreams.

I have also cowrote a magazine which will launch this fall entitled Wealth and Wellbeing or W2. This publication will be used to share information on what we believe is a new and emerging definition for success with some practical tools on how you and your team may live and work in FLOW2.

At the same time, we will continue to test market a new initiative with on-line modules in support of you and your growing business through The Mechanics of FLOW2 We have a few great companies participating in the final stages of the program before we implement a full launch in the new year.

And finally, I am embarking on a journey to write an international edition of Breaking Barriers 10 Entrepreneurial Women Share Their Stories. This book will feature new stories and at the same time we will provide an update on the ladies we featured in the first edition. Collaboration at its best!

So, I think my plate is full, with lots of new and innovative ways to ensure that the connections I make will be win-win as we continue to support each other on this journey we call life while we each contribute “a little something special” to our communities.

Here is my new quote for the next year:

“May the legacy that you leave behind create a footprint of success for the next person who steps into your shoes.”

Be well and lets connect soon.

Trish Tonaj

Trish Tonaj is an author, coach and speaker sharing stories on mentorship
while creating a culture of wealth and wellbeing. She is the author of Breaking Barriers 10 Entrepreneurial Women Share Their Stories and A Diary of Change 12 Personal Tools.

Visit Trish @ www.phaze2wellness.com

 

 

 

 

Have you ever decided to participate in a 21 day challenge? 

You know, the hard core commitment to make a change in your life!  There are so many different types of transformation: eat healthier, commit to a new exercise routine, disconnect from technology, start a new career…all with good intensions and a focus on our wealth and wellbeing.

What about just simply “being kind to yourself?” 

It is the last month of summer and a few colleagues and I have decided to embark on a 21 day challenge of being “kind to ourselves.”  We are participating in the Oprah, Deepak Meditation series to learn how to manifest our desires, we will eat clean, walk every day and send each other positive quotes to encourage change.

Each one of us has a different purpose, waiting for the outcome to unfold; but we all agree ’being kind to ourselves” will contribute to a whole new outlook on life and enrich the journey through “self-love.”

Now, there is a lot of research to support the theory of being kind to yourself.  I’m sure you’ve seen this quote: “To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness.” Robert Morley  It makes sense, if we don’t love ourselves first then we have nothing to give to others and no roadmap for our own happiness. It is the foundation for everything we build and the legacy we leave behind.

The conversation that led to the challenge was lively and for some controversial because it was shocking to realize how little we seem to do for ourselves.  No excuse, we all live hectic, fast paced lives, but, “happiness” will soon become elusive if we don’t make a commitment to self-love.

We began to ask these questions:  What makes you smile? When was the last time that you did absolutely nothing; and let the day unfold?  Do you sleep in?  Time at the gym? Visiting with friends? Read a book? Went on vacation? Had a nap?….

It wasn’t long before the direction of the conversation changed and we began to understand the power of being kind to ourselves.  It fuels our passion, gives us energy and if we are open to the challenge, perhaps, it may even support a new outlook on life. 

Sooooo, we have encouraged each other to “just be… for 21 days.”

Personally, I find myself in a state of transition, embarking on new challenges and looking for the signs and signals to let me know that I’m on the right track.

I have a few lofty goals in the coming year; write a sequel to my book Breaking Barriers, focus on becoming an international keynote speaker, AND continue to coach entrepreneurs on their next level of success through striking a balance between wealth and wellbeing and now… “love myself.”

The 21 days will conclude at the end of August; just in time for the fall season and my own personal new year.

I am truly going to take the rest of the summer, and enjoy life, giving myself permission to “just be…for 21 days.” 

I’m sure my colleagues will do the same and I am looking forward to the outcome.

I have to ask: What is Your 21 day challenge?…

“Be the person who starts a ripple that creates a wave of change”

Trish Tonaj is an author, coach and speaker sharing stories on mentorship
while creating a culture of wealth and wellbeing. She is the author of

Breaking Barriers 10 Entrepreneurial Women Share Their Stories and

A Diary of Change 12 Personal Tools.  Visit Trish @ www.phaze2wellness.com

In the last few months I have had the pleasure of participating in three different podcasts with the same objective…”sharing stories.” 

I’ve been told, as an author, a podcast is another form of connecting with readers who not only have a love of books but enjoy “listening” to the “voice” behind the story.  The conversation with the host creates an energy that helps to convey your story from a different perspective.

The initiatives have a common theme because when we share hidden details about our story it will in some way resonate with a new audience. 

Sharing our experience is not always easy and for most it is described as taking a step outside our comfort zone.  I think back to the early days of writing and the courage or perhaps tenacity it took to pick up a pen or open the computer in the evening after working a full day, or on the weekend, with in my case, numerous pots of tea to keep the words flowing and spellcheck in check.

You truly have to put yourself out there to bring a new project to life!

If you had asked me a few years ago if I would ever journey into the world of publishing the answer, as you expect, would have been “NO, not a chance,” but, somehow I find myself compelled to share inspirational stories about personal and professional success.

Now, I seem to find myself on a quest to write another book – an international edition of Breaking Barriers.

Yikes! 

Sharing the stories of entrepreneurial women around the globe with the hope of inspiring others to pursue their dreams. I believe that the barriers are the same no matter where you live…we shall see!  The platform will be consistent with the first edition: mentorship, business innovation and philanthropy.

I have learned to step outside my comfort zone and own my story by speaking from the heart. Now and again, I pick up a mic and share the details into what may only be described as my own passion project.   I am still shocked, amazed and yet honoured when I am asked to speak about the story behind the story for Breaking Barriers and…I have found that public speaking has become a new form of passion. 

Sharing our stories has created a platform for you to share your stories with us!

I’d like to thank the “hosts” of each podcast for introducing me to their passion project and reigniting my own with the opportunity to share our stories with a new audience.  I am looking forward to hearing the interviews “live” and sharing the mic again in the near future.

and if…

You find that I connect, asking if your interested…we’d love to hear your story because you never know…it may introduce you to create your own passion project.

“Be the person who starts a ripple that creates a wave of change.”

 

Trish Tonaj is an author, coach and speaker sharing stories on mentorship
while creating a culture of wealth and wellbeing. She is the author of Breaking Barriers: 10 Entrepreneurial Women Share Their Stories and A Diary of Change 12 Personal Tools.  Visit Trish @ www.phaze2wellness.com

At a certain stage in life we continually ask the question “Why?” For those of you who have young children you know exactly what I mean. We seem to repeat the same question over and over when we are interested in learning something new or searching for an answer. It is as if when we look through the lens of a camera that we will find the answer.

As a coach, we often discuss the elusive question “Why” but in terms of purpose. The why we ask is related to our jobs, goals, friends and family.
Why did I choose this career? Why do I live in this city? Why am I here?…

There are a number of people who specialize in providing us with tools to answer the question why? Simon Sinek wrote a book entitled Start With Why which has created a phenomenon around asking ourselves the question related to leadership, innovation and marketing. His theory is that asking the question “Why” is a naturally occurring pattern, a way of thinking, acting and communicating that gives some leaders the ability to inspire those around them and create better connections.

In The Mechanics of FLOW2 we have a number of modules that create a platform for answering this question as it relates to you and your growing business.

I find, that throughout the conversation we end up connecting the dots between purpose and authenticity by asking this simple question. It is a question that changes and evolves with life experience.

Purpose, by definition is “the reason for which something is done or created or for which something exists.” Authenticity, is simply being “genuine.”

As we apply these definitions, a strong sense of purpose creates a roadmap for ongoing success. It often provides us with the confidence to pursue our dreams or implement course corrections in our own personal journey. It is directly related to our thoughts and feelings on living authentically. How many people do you know who have changed jobs, careers and even went back to school in response to asking their own question “Why?”

Purpose, becomes the guidepost or foundation into how we choose to live our life. In fact, one might argue that without purpose, we have lost our way…sending us on a quest to answer the question and live our life with authenticity. What we do and how we do it has become a source of reflection when we ask the question “Why?”

“Why?” will lead you to being able to clearly articulate:

Why you get out of bed every morning?…
Why you do the work that you do?…
Why you feel the way that you do?…and ultimately lead you to answer the bigger question: Are you living your authentic life?

I’m sure you will soon be able to answer that question with conviction…excitement and purpose!

Why? ______________ You fill in the blank.

 

Trish Tonaj is an author, coach and speaker sharing stories on mentorship
while creating a culture of wealth and wellbeing. She is the author of Breaking Barriers: 10 Entrepreneurial Women Share Their Stories and A Diary of Change 12 Personal Tools.  Visit Trish @ www.phaze2wellness.com